The contribution of a surrogate mother is second to none in the success of a surrogacy program. So, when I thought of becoming a surrogate, I was infused with some big hope, yet not without the concerns in my mind. It came as a way filled with emotional highs and lows, challenges, and eventually, the unparalleled joy of bringing a new life into the world for somebody else. In sharing my story, I hope to shed light on the complexities of surrogacy, the emotional rollercoaster it involves, and the huge impact the Journey to become a surrogate has had on me.
The Journey to become a surrogate
Making the hard choice
The idea of becoming a surrogate didn’t come like that. I thought of giving it a go for many reasons- my urge to attain motherhood yet didn’t want to have my child at this age at the same time. That said, my Journey to become a surrogate started with a profound urge to assist someone with their parenthood dreams. Moreover, having listened to surrogacy through a friend who battled with infertility, I felt a strong shift towards offering this blessing to somebody incapable of carrying a pregnancy.
Also, after discussing it with my family and doing extensive research, I reached out to a reputable surrogacy agency. Well, the initial screening was thorough, involving medical examinations, psychological evaluations, and legal consultations to ensure I fully understood the commitment I was about to make.
I knew that this surrogacy journey would come with a lot of challenges, yet I was all up for it, given my urge to help someone. I went through all these tests and diagnoses without any hesitation and offered my full support during every single procedure.
Finding the match with a good couple
Eventually, I connected with an intended parent who was looking for a healthy surrogate to carry their child. Also, the process of matching with the intended parents was filled with anticipation. When I finally met the couple I would be a surrogate for, it felt right from the start. That said, they shared their journey of infertility and loss, and in their story, I saw the depth of their longing for a child. Gradually, we built a bond rooted in trust and mutual respect, which became the foundation of our surrogacy journey together.
The couple was all supportive of my intentions of acting as a surrogate mother. They also asked regarding any financial requirements from my end, to which I said no. While I came with a clear emotion of helping someone, including financial obligations didn’t sound good to me.
Initiating my Medical Journey to become a surrogate
The medical aspect of surrogacy was more demanding than I anticipated. Also, it began with fertility treatments to prepare my body for the pregnancy, which was sometimes uncomfortable and emotionally taxing.
The day we received news of a successful embryo transfer was unforgettable. Knowing that I was pregnant with a child that would bring immeasurable joy to another family filled me with a sense of purpose and happiness.
Dealing with the hard emotions of pregnancy
At the same time, exploring the emotional aspect of carrying a child not hereditarily related to me was complex. Whereas I felt a profound duty and care for the child, I was also intensely mindful that my role was that of a caretaker for a brief point in time. At the same time, my family’s support was constant, helping me remain grounded in my reason. Also, the intended parents and I shared each point of moment, from hearing the baby’s pulse for the first time to feeling the first kicks, which as it were developed our association.
The surrogacy agency I dealt with also came to my support with their consoling services. Moreover, they helped me through all those hard moments of my surrogacy journey. All of these associations and support came to my rescue when I felt anxious and stressed.
Holding the child in my arms
Childbirth was the moment we all were waiting for. Yet, the intended parents were by my side, and seeing their initial moments with their child was significantly moving. To me, it was a mixed farewell when I offered the child to them, but the overpowering feeling was one of bliss and fulfilment. I had helped someone make a family, and the size of that was both lowering and enabling.
The weeks after the birth were a time of emotional changes within me. Whereas I was prepared for this stage, the sense of misfortune was stronger than I had expected. However, the surrogacy agency offered fabulous postpartum support, and remaining in touch with the family I helped also offered their care and blessings. Also, seeing the love and joy in their eyes made me so emotional.
On the other hand, the choice to act as a surrogate has changed my life in many ways. It taught me about the profundities of human sympathy, the quality of the human soul, and the mind-blowing joy that comes from helping others realize their dreams of parenthood. Moreover, the journey to become a surrogate was not without its challenges, but the love and appreciation from the family I helped to form were more than I might have ever trusted.
Final words
To those considering surrogacy, know that it could be a journey like no other. Still, it requires a profound commitment, not only physically and emotionally, but also an eagerness to set out on a significantly generous act. For me, being a surrogate mother was an experience filled with love, development, and the extreme blessing of giving. Also, it has changed me in ways I never anticipated, educating me regarding the power of giving and the unbreakable bonds it can make.
My journey as a surrogate mother was one of the most challenging yet fulfilling encounters of my life. Yet, it was a gift to offer the blessing of life and witness the birth of a new family. So, I can say that this journey has until the end of time changed me, filling my heart with appreciation and a significant sense of fulfillment.
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